Its Over So Get Over It
So you are sitting in a dark room with a tub of ice cream in your lap and tissues piled up next to you on the bed because you found out he was talking to his ex on Facebook. That is something that happens to a lot of people these days, especially when you consider how popular social sites have become. But that doesn’t mean you have to let it take you into a pit of despair. Sure, it’s going to hurt for a bit but you will eventually get over him and move on with your life like it never happened.
Moving on from a relationship is a hard thing to do most of the time. Even when your partner has done something so completely stupid that you have no issues walking out the door, the days that follow will be filled with sleepless nights and all the good memories that the two of you shared together. Guys and gals alike will go through things like this at the end of a relationship no matter what happened to cause it to end. The bad thing is that there is no one set way of making things return to normal.
Some people may think going out to parties and drinking a lot will help them move on with their lives. For some of them, it might help, but everyone knows that when you start drinking to forget something like a relationship, you end up doing something even more stupid than you did to end it all.
The fact is, you will try to get even with that person by sleeping with someone you never would have slept with if you were sober, and that is not the way to go about things.
You have to look at the end of your relationship much like a death in the family; you have to give yourself the time you need to mourn and grieve for what has been lost before you can find the willpower to recover from it. If you allow yourself to slowly come to the realization that what you had is gone and in the past, then you can move forward and find a new path that you can walk down. Hopefully, this time it will be with someone that ends up being a lot better than the idiot you just caught talking to his ex on Facebook.
Now that may not seem like a very constructive way of handling things to most people, but the truth is everyone handles things like this differently. The one thing you don’t want to do is go out and do something stupid that you are going to regret later on. You can go out with your friends and have some fun, but don’t get so drunk that you can’t remember which members of the football team you went home with. That is counterproductive and can end up causing even more problems in your life than just sitting at home eating ice cream with a close friend and thinking about how you are going to get through all of this.